Are you letting your past color your future? Are you assuming, even anticipating the not so happy things that happened in your past will show up in your future? That's what my friend Vince Toran asked me the other day. I was talking to Vince about my daughter, Xanthia. At 10 years old, Xanthia thinks I am the best, funniest, most wonderful person in the world. And I got to tell you, I feel the exact same way about her. As a professional speaker, I travel a lot. The other night I Skyped Xanthia from my hotel room in Alabama and we had an impromptu dance party. We twirled, danced, sang and I even jumped on my hotel room bed. Afterwards, she said "Mommy when you do things like that you m

When you plant seeds for your future goals, how do you wait? Do you worry, do you keep watching or and checking to make sure its going to happen? Do you prepare for the fulfillment of your desires. Do you wait like a farmer? See, after a farmer plants his seeds, he does not worry whether they are going to grow. He does not dig them up every so often to see how they are doing. No, he does everything he is supposed to do to nurture that seed, water, sunshine, weeding and then he prepares for the harvest. That is, he sharpens his tools, makes sure the tractor is in good working order, he clears out the barn where the crop will be kept. All this before he sees even one plant break through

German philosopher, Johan Goethe says that the moment you commit, providence moves too. He says, when you make a commitment a whole stream of events issue from that decision, "raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no person could have dreamed would have come his way." In 2007, I quit my six-figure job as an attorney to find my true purpose. I had no idea what I wanted to do, but I had six months of savings, surely I would find my purpose in those six months. Well at the end of six months and at the end of my money, I still had not figured out what I wanted to do. I was depressed and a bit panicky. While attending a seminar

When you are faced frustration, disappointment and you find yourself fighting an uphill battle; when things don't go the way you wanted, the way you planned, or the way you hoped, sometimes the best thing you can do is let it go. Let it go. Just because things don't go the way you want them to, does not mean you won't get what you need for your life. I was listening to Joel Osteen the other day. He was talking about when his father was ill. Joel said he prayed every single day. He prayed and wished and hoped with full faith that his father would live but in the end, he died. Joel admitted at first he was devastated. He kept asking "why, God? Why would you take this good man, a man who

When my children were younger they loved grilled cheese sandwiches. So when they would ask me to make them a grilled cheese, I'd take the ingredients: the bread, the butter and the cheese and I would put it together and grilled it. And when I flipped it over, it was golden brown and tasty looking. Mmmm. But inevitably once I turned the grilled cheese over to the second side, I would get distracted. I'd try to check email, put in a load of laundry or something and I would burn the second side of the grilled cheese. This happened so often that whenever I was making a grilled sandwich, my children started saying, "Mommy, focus on the grilled cheese." Eventually it became a joke whenever I w

What's keeping you from your goals and dreams? Are there things in your way, things that you just can't do? I suggest that your "can't do's" are really just "won't dos." You say you can't get up a little earlier in the morning to exercise or read something useful because you're just too tired. That's not a "can't do," that's a "won't do." You say you want to lose weight or get in better shape but you can't take the stairs instead of the elevator because you don't have time, or you don't have the right shoes. That's not a "can't do," that's a "won't do." See, I know a little something about "can't do". I see and experience a "can't do" every day. My son is in a wheel chair with no use